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Why is IVF taboo?

IVF! Millions of people go through it, so why is it still such a taboo subject and so often frowned upon when people openly talk about it?

I myself am a very open person, I talk about my issues, why not, a problem shared is a problem halved right? Should I be ashamed that I can’t naturally conceive a child? Because I’m not! I want the world to know about it, because if I can help at least one person by sharing my journey then bring on the tuts, frowns and wicked whispers. If you don’t approve of what I have to say, don’t read it, simple, but why should I or anyone else hide what we are going through? I assure you it’s not for attention, the reason I began this was to help people, maybe make them feel like they are not alone.

The reason I can’t naturally conceive is because I contracted chlamydia from my first boyfriend when I was 17. I was with him for over a year and now believe that he was constantly cheating on me, which resulted in me having this vile infection for 11 months, undetected. Should I be ashamed of that as well? Again, I’m not. Instead, I preach to people about being safe and getting tested regularly because I would not wish what I’ve had to deal with on my worst enemy.

Come one people, don’t slate me, help me spread the word, I have nothing to be ashamed of and neither should anybody struggling to conceive, talking helps, you won’t jinx yourself, don’t worry about failing, who cares what people think?!? If you want to shout it from the rooftop do so… IVF is a precious thing and if that’s what you need to do to get your family, then so what?

Be brave and ignore the critics.

Emma xx


  • Amy Tocknell says:

    Emma, I get the impression that you have received some negativity after being fantastically open and brave about your journey. If this is the case, then how shameful of those individuals. Speaking for everyone here at WMW, we thank all of you ladies that have told us about your IVF journeys and are staggered by your honesty and courage. xx

  • Emma Emma says:

    Yes unfortunately I’ve had some negative feedback sent my way, I just don’t understand how people can be so cruel, but they won’t keep me down, I really appreciate the support from everyone at WMW xxxx

  • Good luck with your IVF treatment, Emma.
    As a woman who has struggled with fertility myself, I am now a mother to two children when some six years ago I was almost convinced it would never happen. There is a light, hope and faith. Thank you for being so brave, so honest and open – you are absolutely right, there is no shame in your situation and sharing your story means creating awareness. Thanks for reaching out to thousands of women.

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