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Give a compliment every day!

Finding someone to compliment each and every day will not only make you (and them) feel good, but it could also benefit your career, your physical health and your mental well-being. Here are some reasons why…

1) It makes you look for the positives in people rather than seeing the negatives. You don’t need to lie, or make something up, just take your time and find something. Every person has their own positive attributes. Remember, a compliment doesn’t just have to include physical appearance. You could compliment someone on a good piece of work, their go-getting attitude, or something they’re wearing.

2) Paying a compliment is the perfect way to make someone feel good; who needs another reason? At a party or a work function, pick someone who looks a little uncomfortable or shy. It will give them, and you, a welcome boost.

3) Pay it forward. The concept is an old one, possibly originating in 1916, but it’s still as relevant today as it ever was. The beneficiary of a good deed pays the deed forward to others, instead of just back to the benefactor. I’m sure at some point in your life you have received an unexpected, but welcome, compliment. Time to pass on the love!

4) If you’re a manager of people, or work in a team where your colleagues can directly affect your success, then you may want to make compliments a working practice. Studies have shown that paying someone a compliment on a new skill they are learning actually encourages the brain to learn it faster. A compliment can act like a beacon for the brain; when it hears it’s doing well, it hones in and works even harder.

5) It will make you feel good to make someone else smile! You know that warm and fuzzy feeling you get inside when you do something nice? Well, you can start getting that hit of endorphins every day with just a little effort.

6) It’s the perfect way to start a conversation with someone new. If you’re a little bit shy yourself, this is an easy way to start a conversation with someone you don’t know (yet!) Try – ‘I love your scarf/hat/bag, where did you get it?’

7) Make people remember you. This theory works in any walk of life, but is particularly useful if you are trying to progress in a career where ‘it’s not what you know, but who you know.’ Colleagues are more likely to remember the nice lady who loved their jacket, for example. Once you’ve started a conversation this way, it’s much easier to steer it towards possible job opportunities, who’s leaving, who’s just arrived, etc.

8) How about karma? A Buddhist belief, karma dictates that whatever you do comes back to you. Many people firmly believe in this concept. So, if you find yourself sitting there thinking what a lovely skirt someone is wearing, then why not get up and tell them? You never know, you might just get a compliment back!

9) It’s good for your health! Psychologists worldwide acknowledge that being kind can benefit not just your mental well-being, but your physical health too. I’d challenge you to give a compliment without smiling, and we all know smiling is good for you.

10) It’s nice. Plain and simple, being nice is, well… nice! Even if no one really notices your efforts (and I’m sure they will) then at least you can feel safe in the knowledge that you’ve spent a little part of your day thinking about others, spreading the love, and making the world we live in that tiny bit better.


  • thehearns@ntlworld.com says:

    I believe in this myself, so this is nice reminder, it is easy to forget to take the time to compliment people. Thanks for the reminder, my New Years resolution to try to compliment colleagues more regularly.

  • Alice Vinten Alice Vinten says:

    Thanks for commenting Anna Hearn :)

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