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Having ‘the talk’ with your child

Unfortunately, our sweet innocent little ones are going to learn about the world of sex somehow when they get older, so surely you’d rather it was from you? I know I would when it comes to my kids. Yes it is a tough talk to give to your children and yes, I’m sure you’d much rather not do it at all, but the sex talk is not only an important one, but also a necessary one.

So, what on earth do I do? Wait to be asked or take the reins and dive in? I think as our kids get older, we realise that sometimes we just have to listen to our instinct – do what you think is best or more suited to your child. To be honest, most kids are observant and curious so will ask questions sooner rather than later, especially if they have a new sibling on the way. I also, personally, will be telling my daughter before she has her first period, last thing I want to do is not tell her and then her panic at the sight of blood coming out of her lady bits – it’s just not fair right?

Oh fun, I now have to broach the subject. I always think that a good starting point is a book – there are loads of them out there. There are also plenty of television programmes on pregnancy and childbirth, which will sure prompt any child to ask the question of, ‘where do babies come from?’ This is fab and easy to do if you or a family member happen to be pregnant or even a family pet.

So, like me, you reckon that your kid is ready for the ‘talk,’ but I’ve often wondered how I should actually go about it – bringing up the subject is the easiest bit im sure. For starters, I’ve heard that it is best to cover the basics early on in your child’s life. Apparently, the idea behind this is that, if they see their genitals as just another part of their body, they won’t be embarrassed or self conscious to talk about it with you later. Obviously, being age appropriate is key too. Talking to your son or daughter about their hormones and how they will change their body, before any of these changes take place is an important timing to get right.

I’m sure you realise too, that it is important when discussing sex with your child, not to just discuss the act, but also the emotions involved and also of the risk of potential consequences – they don’t have to do something that they don’t want to, they can say no! This is where the all important chat about birth control and STDs comes into play.

So, take a deep breath and have ‘that’ chat with your child. After all, research shows that those of us who actively discuss sex openly and directly with our children, feel more like discussing sex with us when they get older themselves – perhaps when they have an issue or a concern. Go on and have the chat with your child, after all, your guidance can help steer your child to making the right decisions and choices in the future when it comes to sex.


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