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Sticks and stones

Here stands a normal girl with closure on her past.


This week, Oxford student Louisa Manning has been making the headlines for striking back at her bully in the most amazing way. Aged 12, she was dubbed “manbeast” and mocked for her hairy legs and her weight. Aged 22, she was approached by her tormentor and surprisingly she agreed to a date.

She got to the restaurant early and gave this to the waiter to give to him:


It reads:

“Hey [name obscured],

So sorry I can’t join you tonight.

Remember year 8, when I was fat and you made fun of my weight? No? I do – I spent the following three years eating less than an apple a day. So I’ve decided to skip dinner.

Remember the monobrow you mocked? The hairy legs you were disgusted by? Remember how every day for three years, you and your friends called me Manbeast? No perhaps you don’t – or you wouldn’t have seen how I look eight years later and deemed me fuckable enough to treat me like a human being.

I thought I’d send you this as a reminder. Next time you think of me, picture that girl in this photo, because she’s the one who just stood you up.


Personally, I applauded her letter. As someone that was bullied too, I understand that words have long lasting effects on you; how these words can echo around your head in your darkest hour. This girl was still hurting and has struck back in a way that should hopefully allow her to move on. Even more surprisingly, she received a letter back from him apologising for his actions and wishing her the best. I feel this to be a valuable lesson in why not to be a bully.

While the vast majority of feedback appears to be positive, congratulating Louisa, this has been met with criticism by others. One person said “If they didn’t bully you, you most probably would be still be fat and thus not deemed ‘fuckable’. So, you owe him a thanks for you to be who you are now” and countless others have deemed the act immature.

Do you think she did the right thing? I would say yes, as long as she now gets on with her life and doesn’t give it a second thought.


  • Terri Brown Terri Brown says:

    Its a tough one, I think she was right not to go out with him and maybe even to remind how he was a bully but to go to the lengths of arranging a date, going early and leaving a note in my opinion he isn’t worth the time. I also feel maybe she has some deep rooted issues from this time she needs to address privately instead of giving him the satisfaction of knowing how much he affected her.

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