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Revenge Porn: The Ex Strikes Back!

Love can make you do crazy things and break ups can make you do stranger things still. A person that you once trusted with everything can act completely differently once they have had their heart broken. Instead of having the usual sulk, chocolate binge and moan to their friends, some guys are taking their revenge efforts to the extreme and getting back at their ex partners in the worst possible way!

Dubbed ‘Revenge Porn’, more and more women are experiencing the wrath of their angry ex as they post intimate photos and videos online for all to see. And if it’s not bad enough that some pictures are deliberately sent to the girl’s friends and family, some are posted on porn websites, then linked to the girls personal social media, allowing strange men to contact them directly.

Not only does it cause great embarrassment, revenge porn can leave women feeling vulnerable, paranoid and depressed.
There are cases of women developing trust issues in future relationships, constantly searching for their name online to check how many times their image comes up and even losing their jobs as a result of revenge porn.

What can we do to stop it? The answer at the moment is not much,unless you have a lot of spare time and money! Contacting social media sites and asking for them to remove explicit content can work, as well as contacting search engines such as Google and getting your pic removed, but once a naked shot is posted onto a porn site, they can spread like wild fire and can move so quickly from page to page it becomes impossible to keep track. As far as the law is concerned, even with efforts to recognise revenge porn as a type of sex crime, the lines are still blurry. As it is likely that you have taken the photo, surely you have the say in where it is posted, however if you sent it to your partner, that is passing on your consent for them to do with it what they will.

With the law not being on side, to stop acts of revenge porn should us girls stop sending raunchy pics to our boyfriends altogether? I think not! Surely sending a cheeky picture now and then to a person you love and trust is not something you should be punished for! It certainly does not make that girl a ‘SLUT’ or a ‘WHORE’! These images have been taken for one guys eyes only, not for attention from the entire male population and were never intended to be used as porn!

However, it’s not all doom and gloom! This week the BBC reported a lady winning a case against her former partner who had changed his Whatsapp profile picture to a naked shot of her. He is now serving a 12 week sentence in prison.

Now for a scary statistic! 1 in 10 women are threatened by an ex with releasing intimate pictures and videos online, and of these people, 60% of those threats are carried out, making this issue a serious one!!

Us ladies ( and gents of course) need to work together to put an end to the humiliation of revenge porn!
Sign a petition at banrevengeporn.com to pressure our government for a change in the law!

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