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Put Your Damn Phone Down – If You Can

Technology has taken a gigantic leap in the past 2 or 3 decades, developing at an incredible rate and working to make our lives more convenient. But perhaps we need to take a step back from our machines and see how incurably tangled they are in our lives, how they cross wires with our family bonds and our friendships. We can’t see the world with a screen pressed to our noses, and the beauty of it drains out in grains and pixels through a camera lens. A life spent sharing every experience on social media is not a life experienced. We need to put our phones down.

With the words at our fingertips rather than our lips, we’re given a certain flippant courage. We can make that remark to our friend, we can ignore that text or delete that person’s number. We are downright rude in a way we wouldn’t dream of being in person. The impersonality of cyber communication can allow us to forget that we’re speaking to someone we love, that we care about. We just see a message and respond, or not. Pretty soon you’ll chance to say a bitchy comment, or you’ll screenshot one sent to you and show it to your other friends. If we get into an argument, it’s so easy to just text another friend straight away to talk about it before you’ve had a chance to calm down. Eventually cracks start to show, because online, nothing is forcing you to be friendly. You don’t have to smile when you’re supposed to smile or frown when you’re supposed to frown. But putting in that effort is what order nolvadex and clomid keeps a friendship renewed, and so the environment of technology is just not suitable for a healthy friendship.

Another problem is how engrossed we are by our phones. Sometimes we’re being productive, checking emails, replying to messages and looking up relevant things. But sometimes we’re just Facebook stalking and browsing the TopShop website. In what kind of setting do you do this? While you’re bored by yourself? Or, like me, can it be anywhere? Nowadays, people are on their phones during family gatherings and at weddings, at christenings and concerts, at events where there are far more interesting things going on, things that, when you look back on, you will be able to remember neither what happened nor what was preoccupying you so much. When we sit on our phones, we cut ourselves off. Our body language says ‘do not talk to me, I’m busy’. And so we don’t get to interact with our families and friends as much as we really would like, we just take it for granted when we’re with them and our phone beeps.

I know that technology is very, very useful in some aspects, but in others it’s making us almost too civilised. We’re so connected with the world far from us that we ignore the world around us. We all need to live a little. But I bet you’re on your phone right now, and you might stop for the rest of the day, but tomorrow, someone will probably be talking to a brick wall as you scan your Twitter feed. The thing is, we love it too much to stop.


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