Have you ever experienced a child shouting and screaming at you or behaving really badly for no apparent reason? If you have, you’re a mother. Mothers perform so many different roles for their children that if they were paid for their work, they would earn an absolute fortune! They are teachers, housekeepers, chefs, managers, mentors, friends and so much more. Whether or not there is a dad around, mums are the lynch pin of every family. So it seems very unfair that in return for all their hard work, they are sometimes rewarded with the worst of their child’s behaviour.
My own daughter has admitted to me many times that she would not have subjected her father to the cheekiness and poor behaviour that I sometimes experience, yet she can’t explain to me why she does it. Don’t get me wrong, my daughter is not some kind of nightmare problem child. She’s just a little girl who is starting to grow up and she is human. Because I am a single mum, I have in the past felt upset that she has taken her frustrations out on me. However, I have come to the realisation that because we have such a happy and close relationship, she sees me as a safe person to whom she can vent her worries and stresses. She knows that I will love her even if she shouts at me or refuses to do what she’s told. She knows that I will support her even if she initially rejects my help. She knows I will always be there for her.
So, the next time your child blames you for a forgotten PE kit, don’t think they are taking you for granted. They see you as someone they can rely on absolutely, to love and care for them no matter what they say or do. That security is worth more to any child than any material goods, so if you’re a mum, give yourself a huge pat on the back!