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Money can’t buy me love

I am sure that at one time or another, we have all had some financial problems in our lives and could be forgiven for thinking that if we, somehow, came into a lot of money, all our problems would be over?

I was watching a daytime show the other day with a competition for which the prize money was £100,000! WOW! I looked at my husband and we chatted about how lovely it would be and started thinking about what we would do with it. I am sure many people would say similar things – pay off debts, do some shopping, buy a house and book some lovely holidays. We have always wanted to go on a World Cruise and have been eyeing up a few other holidays and events to look forward to. How incredible would it be to not have to choose but just go ahead and book them all…?

Of course, it wouldn’t be that simple… As I have mentioned before, my husband has Cystic Fibrosis. He works hard and manages to keep himself fairly well and stable but only has a lung function of 40%. Like many others with CF, one of the hardest things he has to contend with when he has a low lung function, is his energy levels. He really has to pace himself with any activities. Even if this is just popping into town or going out for a meal – getting treatments done, physio complete and getting showered is a long process.

Whilst dreaming about the World Cruise, I suddenly thought… no, we would have to think carefully, take it easy, be sensible. Make sure he still schedules in enough rest and recuperation time. Too many holidays, daytime activities or too much ‘running’ around could be a recipe for disaster. He could get sick, which is the harsh reality of this condition and certainly not what we’d want.

All the money in the world cannot help with a genetic condition for which there is no cure. Researchers are always looking for advancements but even a wonder drug couldn’t reverse the damage that has been done to his lungs over his lifetime. This condition, just like many others, is not affected by how much money we have or do not have but by disease progression and condition of the lungs. You can be the richest or poorest person in the world but when you are sick, it makes no difference.

If we won a load of money, we couldn’t, as much as we may want to, just drop everything and go jetting off around the world. My husband is not allowed to fly for a start as his lungs are too weak; We couldn’t be too far away from a hospital for too long just in case he needs intervention and he is always back at hospital for regular check ups. Money or no money, his health will always be top priority… as frustrating as it may be for him.

We may not have money in the bank or be likely to be ‘well off’ but we don’t need money to lead a rich life. We have a wonderful family, amazing friends, lots of love and above everything else, we have each other and together we can face anything and everything. Money can’t buy you love or happiness and it certainly can’t buy health! They say money makes the world go round? I am glad that health is not reliant on it!

As the Beatles sang… “I don’t care too much for money, money can’t buy me love!”


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