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In the driving seat

Ever had driving lessons? Ever felt like it was completely out of your depth? You’re not alone.

Earlier this year, I decided that it was time for me to start driving lessons and get myself a car as I was doing a normal 9-5 job. I had all the time in the world to get lessons and practice after work and on the weekends. I also always had this feeling that when I drove my own car that would prove my independence and make me feel like a proper adult. But the thought stopped there.

It wasn’t as easy as it sounds. I took manual lessons because it seemed like the smarter option, with more choices of cars and what not after I passed my test, but seriously, I hope I’m not talking just for myself but I was completely out of my depth. I couldn’t multitask while turning and looking into the mirror at the same time, let alone also listen to my instructor’s directions. How can you possibly listen to someone when you are the one controlling both of your lives in this vehicle? I do not know.

Anyway, I had a lot of lessons, maybe 40 hours in total, but it just never seemed to get any easier; it got harder if I’m honest. One time I got into the car and I completely forgot everything that I was told. I couldn’t remember what to do first and when we were driving, I felt like my mind went blank and I was just sitting in someone else’s car waiting to be dropped off somewhere. My whole body went numb and I just sat there while my muscles did the work.

Thinking about it now, I do remember a few things and would be much more confident driving now than I was back then, but that’s just easier said than done. When you’re really there and someone is testing you, you freeze and your mind erases everything you’ve ever known. It’s like being re-born; your whole memory is lost and what you have to do is improvise, cross your fingers and hope for the best.

Anyway, my instructor was not the most helpful of people. We got on okay and had a few personal chats, but there were times when I felt impatience and tiredness coming from the seat next to me and that definitely put me off my game. It made me more aware of the guy and it made me feel a lot less confident because I felt like I had to get everything correct the first time. And… as I was learning in the UK, I stupidly decided to take my lessons when it was pitch black, which was not helpful and made it harder for me to see things on the road and on-coming cars approaching. It was silly, but I felt like if I didn’t do the lessons after work, I would only ever be able to do them on the weekends (which always had too long of a waiting list).

So as you have probably guessed, I do not drive and I still don’t have a license to this very day. It’s been almost a year and I am proud to tell you that I do not have the ability to drive a car. Strangely enough, I am in good control of everything else. I learn quite fast and my knowledge is quite broad. I also have the excuse now that I live in London and don’t need to drive as the public transport system is a lot easier to navigate and involves less waiting around for traffic.

BUT, this doesn’t mean that my driving lessons stop here; I will give them another try sooner or later, depending on when I get free time but right now, working around 52 hours a week, it doesn’t seem to close. Automatic is the way to go for me in the future and with fingers, legs, ears, lips and toes crossed, my next journey with driving lessons will be more successful.

I hope that I’m not the only one that can’t drive! Share your understanding with me!


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