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Feeling isolated in a world of social media

In an age where social media is dominating the world and texting is a favourite past-time, have you ever felt more like you’re isolated? A ridiculous question, I know! Social media is everywhere, so surely we’re speaking more to the people we know? I know that I talk to my friends on Facebook every other day and always try my best to call long-distance friends when I can, but it never feels like enough. Since finishing university this year most of my uni friends are too far to just nip over and visit, not to mention that none of us can really afford to. Talking online is good, because we are still in each other’s lives, but it can never be the same as when we were actually in uni together; all crowded round a table laughing at stupid jokes, complaining about deadlines, chatting about meaningless things and loving every second of it. Social media is definitely great for knowing what people are up to, but it can never replace those people actually being there.

As well as my uni friends I’ve also got the friends I made in primary and high school to stay in contact with, the ones who feel like they’ve been my friends forever! A group of four, we all went off to different universities. This was alright at first because we got to visit each other and have mad adventures in different parts of the country, but eventually life gets in the way. Only myself and one other friend have finished our three year courses now, the other two skipped a year and are still in their last year of uni. One of which is now studying in Japan, the other Oxford. It’s not like you don’t try but sometimes it can be hard to keep in touch – Are you free to skype tonight? Got an essay to finish, how about tomorrow? I’m busy tomorrow morning, I could ring you in the afternoon maybe? I’ve got a lecture then. Damn, okay. How about next week?

In the olden days of letters and the old-fashioned telephones it goes without saying that people mustn’t have been able to get in touch as often as they can now. I think the main difference in our modern world is the fact that we’re used to being able to contact people whenever and wherever and if we aren’t able to do so that’s seen as a huge problem. Immediately we’re sure something must be wrong – Is the network down? Why wouldn’t she be answering her phone? Do you think she’s okay?

I think the world does seem a lot closer now. We can get in contact with people miles and miles away; you can chat to someone in Japan or someone in America, and it’s hardly like the time-difference is there. To everyone with technology the world has become smaller and we can stay in touch with pretty much anyone (even going so far as to stalk our favourite celebrities on twitter!) But people still have busy lives, and if they can’t get to a computer or are too busy to look at their phone then that’s it, contact lost. It’s much easier for someone to ignore a machine than it is a person.

We’re only ever one Lost Signal or No Connection away from being isolated completely.


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