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Falling In Love With My Best Friend

Every little girl dreams of falling in love with prince charming and living happily ever after. It’s only when we get older that we realise that the fairytales don’t exist. I always wanted to be in a fairytale but what I have now is so much better.

The story of us began when I we were both eight years old. My mother was a childminder and that summer she had a new boy to look after, his name was Declan. He was only a few months older than me and something just clicked. We spent the entire summer playing on the play station together, playing board games and holding hands in secret. I was sad when the summer ended and he had to leave, but I never forgot about him. I always remembered the freckles on his nose, the intensity of his blue eyes and his cheeky sense of humour. I never thought I would see him again.

The universe had a plan. We were brought back together eight years later. It was definitely meant to be. I was sitting at home on my computer one night when my older sister returned from work. She told me that she had seen Declan, the boy that my mother looked after all those summers ago. He asked about me. He didn’t forget our summer together either. That night his name popped up on the left hand side of my Facebook screen and we talked for hours.

The next day we spent all day talking, getting to know each other all over again and eventually we swapped numbers and arranged our first date. It’s now nearly five years later and we are still together. We’re not only in love but we are best friends. He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. We get stronger every day and I couldn’t imagine a world without him in it.

I remember being a little girl and reading fairytales and all I wanted was to meet that one person that would change my life forever and I have. Even though our relationship isn’t perfect like the ones in the story books, we always get through hard times. He’s my rock and I wouldn’t be the confident person I am today without his encouragement.

Love shouldn’t just be based on physical attraction. Many couples get caught up in their relationship and worry about where it’s going. We take each day as it comes, we laugh, we give each other plenty of hugs and we support each other no matter what happens. We are physically attracted to each other but I think it’s more important to connect in other ways to, that’s how our relationship works.

Even when I feel like the rest of the world is crumbling around me, I know that I have him. The man who makes me smile, the man who says I’m beautiful every single day and the man that still has the same cheeky sense of humour and the same twinkle in his eyes.

We might be both twenty one now but I still see the eight year old boy who hated losing to me at connect four, the eight year old boy that kissed me on my cheek on the last day when the summer ended and the same eight year old boy that stole my heart the minute that I saw him.


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