“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman, with passing years, only grows!” – Audrey Hepburn
From an early age, girls are bombarded with images of ‘perfect role models’ that show girls that they can only be pretty if they wear make up. We’re taught by our mothers and the other woman around us that putting blusher on our cheeks and dressing our eyes with mascara and eye shadow can create an illusion of instant attractiveness. Even before we get our hands on the real thing, we play with ‘pretend’ make up.
During our teenage years we try to cover our spots with foundation and almost like a security blanket, we feel better when we cover up our flaws and imperfections. It’s only when you get older that you realise you don’t need make up after all. Well, that’s how it was for me. I was the girl that didn’t leave the house without mascara during my teens because I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin. I soon snapped out of it and tried to wear no make up for a couple of weeks and the results were astonishing. Not only did I start to feel pretty but I started to feel confident that I didn’t need make up to make me feel good about myself.
Now I tend to wear make up when I feel like wearing it. When I’m going out with friends I will wear natural make up and I like to wear dark or brightly coloured eye shadow to make my green eyes stand out. Make up shouldn’t be misused as a way of covering up your natural beauty; it should be used as a statement of confidence. Know what looks good and remember that less is definitely more. There’s nothing worse than seeing a girl with painted eyebrows, three layers of foundation and bright red lipstick that has missed her lips and caught her two front teeth. Make up should only highlight what beauty you already possess, it does not create it.
It’s important to take care of your skin and that’s why I try not to wear foundation too much because despite what they tell you, it blocks your pores and causes more problems in the long term. If I am having a breakout of spots, I sometimes cover them up and other times I don’t. Everybody has spots and blemishes and it isn’t something that you should be ashamed of.
There’s nothing wrong with loving make up, trying different styles and experimenting with different shades and colours but women need to remember that they are beautiful without cosmetics. Society makes women feel ugly and insecure. Everywhere we look are advertisements showing us that we can ‘cover up’ ‘hide’ and ‘change’ our bodies and our faces to reach a high standard of beauty. Don’t listen to it.
Stand in front of the mirror for a few minutes each day and instead of pointing out your flaws and imperfections, focus on what you really like about yourself. You might have beautiful eyes, a smooth complexion or you might have a really nice smile. Find something that you love and embrace it. You are beautiful in your own way and you don’t need make up to build your self-esteem. What you need is to whisper a few kind words to yourself each day. Smile and let your inner beauty shine through.
“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.”― Confucius