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It’s a Bad Day, Not a Bad Life

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”
– Aristotle

I woke up on Monday morning hating the world, I was feeling drained before the day had even begun. The built up frustrations over the past couple of months had crippled me. I didn’t want to face the day, I didn’t see the point. Not only did I not give myself a chance to change the day around, I had given up on the hope that something good could actually happen. My negative attitude is stopping me from being truly happy. Everyone has bad days. Those washed-out days that only brings sadness and other negative emotions, you wish you could erase the hours that have passed you by and start all over again. That is how I felt on Monday.

Now there are many things that you can do to change your mood around, listen to music, read something inspiring or work out in the gym, whatever it is, everyone has their own mood boosters. Although I tried some of these things, it didn’t change my mood. Only when I woke up the following morning, did I realise how foolish I was to let my bad mood control the outcome of my whole day. I won’t let it happen again. I am responsible for my own happiness. If I am having a bad day, I need to remember that it will pass and sadness is only temporary.

Remember that being happy is state of being that only you can create.

These are the ten reminders that will help you whenever you have a bad day. I hope they inspire you.

Take a deep breath. Think about how amazing it is to be alive. We live in a world that never stops and sometimes all we need to do is stop, look up at the sky and realise the miracle of life. Go for a walk and be with nature and you will feel everything, you will realise that it is amazing that you exist in a world of endless possibilities, a world of beauty and a world of hope.

 Always count your blessings. Instead of thinking about what is going wrong in your life, think about what is right. You may have a wonderful family that are always there for you, a friend that always has a shoulder for you to cry on or a partner who you love. Enjoy what you already have and the rest will come if you wait. Think about one thing that you are grateful for and you will feel blessed and much happier about your bad situation.

Remember that when something bad happens, something good will always follow. You have to remember that the universe is on your side and although everything appears to be grey right now, the balance will be restored and something great will happen soon, that’s just the way that life works. I’m a big believer in karma (and you should be too). Life will surprise you when you least expect it.

Laugh out loud.
The most effective way to cheer yourself up is laughing. Watch a funny Youtube video or just be silly and childlike with one of your friends. As adults we spend a lot of time being serious and we forget to just laugh and play. Focus on your inner child and free yourself from stress and worry, laughing really is the best medicine.

Get moving.
Exercise is a great way to reduce stress and when you exercise your body releases endorphins = instant happiness! Exercising for just thirty minutes each day can make you feel better. Whether you like to hit the weights at the gym, run or do Zumba, any form of exercise will make you feel much happier.

Stop comparing your life to other people’s lives.
This is something that I am definitely guilty of and you probably are too. Facebook is great for communicating with friends and family that live far away but without knowing, we are comparing the lives of others with our own, we can’t help but think about everything that we are missing from our own lives. Also, remember that you are on your own journey and you don’t need the approval of others.

Do what you love doing.
If you love to paint, then paint! If you like going for long walks to clear your head – do that! Music, yoga, meditation – whatever makes you feel good – do it! If you take a few minutes out of each day to do something that you love doing, you will improve your overall happiness and you will be able to be more positive when a bad day strikes. I love to read. If I had only listened to my own advice and read a book on Monday, I might have escaped the negative feelings I had for a little while but I was too stubborn to do anything about it (it’s what inspired me to do this list for others and to remind myself).

It’s a bad day, not a bad life.
I’ve always loved this saying because it puts everything into perspective. If you say this phrase to yourself, you will realise that bad moods, sadness and bad days are only momentary and a new day brings new possibilities. When you realise that what you are feeling is temporary you will look towards the future with an optimistic view.

Do something different.
When we deviate from our usual routines we learn a lot about ourselves. If there is something you have always wanted to try and never had the confidence to do so, now is a better time than any. At the minute, I feel frustrated by the restrictions of only having a little bit of money and no full time job but instead of being alone with my thoughts; I distract myself by trying something new. I’ve started a sign language night course, once a week so I can escape and lose myself into a new hobby. It allows me to think about something other than my bad situation for two hours. It really helps when you change your focus.

This seems like an obvious one but it’s not what you think. Studies have shown that even if you fake being happy, eventually you will start to feel it. So smile even when your world is crumbling around you. We underestimate the power of a smile. No matter how many bad things have happened to you or how crappy you feel – it will get better!

I hope that you find comfort in these ten reminders when you’re having a bad day. I’m great at giving advice to others but not necessarily following it myself. So I’m going to listen to my own advice for once and reflect on a few of these ten reminders when I feel detached from myself or I feel lost or unhappy.

Happiness is not something that we can buy or something that we can find in others, we have to find it in ourselves.  Happiness is something that can be snatched away from us, but we have to hold it tight and feel positive, that everything happens for a reason and that there is always light at the end of a dark tunnel.



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